Falling in Love?

What is love?

Is it a just a feeling like hunger? Is it a necessity like breathing? Is it a style statement like your mobile? Is it a hobby like cricket? Is it a passion like life? Is it everything yet nothing at all?

Anyone? Everyone? No one?

This is probably the most common four letter word in the history. You may associate it with the individuals close to you; your parents, your partner, your pet, your confidant, your poison, yourself! But can anyone actually define Love? Yes? I will pay you if you can satisfy my curiosity & give me a definitive answer to all my questions. I’ll pay you in kind.. Maybe shower you with Lurrve!!

When do you know that you are in love?

Is it when you forget all about yourself & spend 30 hour a day visualizing yourself with your Significant Other (SO)? Is it when you can’t stand anyone speak wrong about the only ‘perfect’ person in your life? Is it when your blood boils if your SO gives more importance to someone else? Is it when you feel empty in their absence & spring to life with a mere sms? I wouldn’t say that I have spend an enormous time trying to figure this mystery, but I surely have experienced the ups & downs that it brings with it. Its strange how all the cliché & filmy dialogues don’t seem funny anymore when you are a part. Things that defy common sense suddenly occupy your mind & you actually start believing in its occurrence. “I’ll get the stars & moon for you” – YA RITE!!!!

Someone please tell me how is it a happy feeling?

Research tells us that ‘Love’ is the main cause for suicide. I mean take for eg. an icecream. You like your lips that changes color with every lick, you like the soft yet frozen feel on your tongue, you like the way it feels as it makes its way from your mouth all the way to your stomach – But would you harm yourself once you are done enjoying it? No! At max you will order one more. You will relish it for sometime BUT you will surely not bang your head against the wall till you can’t feel it any more, blood starts gushing from your nose & get a sick feeling in your stomach!!!!

Everything in this world is an option for every individual; be it choice of food, clothes, work, friends & the best part is that its given that you don’t have to stick to one option in any choice. Your are allowed to eat a Chinese pizza with a pudina chatni, wear om kurta with denims & Italian shows, live in Indian home with Romanian interiors equipped with Korean technology BUT its not acceptable to love two individuals at the same time!! It’s against the society & termed as cheating!!

Why??????

I don’t think society by itself has anything against loving two people or at least if you consider ancient, the first forms of civilization, back then man was very comfortable with the fact that the human race is not meant to be monogamous. It was understood that one would have multiple partners. Even Indian mythology has proof that polygamy was very much the way of the society back in the start of time as we know it. It really depends on whether your partner has it in her/him to understand that love can happen with two or more people. Sadly most people don’t... because with love comes possessiveness & territorialism. Many people aren’t secure enough in themselves to give in to free love




Note: Part of this blog has been influenced by Indian next best selling author Sim Chan.